Breakups are already complicated. Throw in non-monogamy, multiple emotional bonds, evolving boundaries, and divergent expectations, and the question “Can I still be friends with my ex?” becomes even more nuanced. As an ENM therapist, I often see people wrestling not just with loss, but with how to redefine relational connections. Here’s how I approach that question, what I encourage clients to consider, and guidelines for doing it (or choosing not to).

Discover why a poly friendly counsellor is essential for ENM & polyamory relationships. Learn the signs you need therapy & how to find affirming support.

We all have little habits that can frustrate our partners - leaving dishes on the bench, clothes on the floor, or finishing the last biscuit. On their own, these seem small, but in relationships, they can carry weight. That’s because habits often become symbols of something deeper: whether we feel seen, valued, and cared for.

We all experience moments in our relationships when emotions run high and conflict arises. That’s completely normal. But how we respond in those heated moments can either build connection - or quietly create distance.

How owning your actions strengthens trust, connection, and emotional safety In non-monogamous relationships - whether you're polyamorous, open, or exploring another structure - communication often gets the spotlight. But another cornerstone is just as vital: accountability.

A lot of people have sexual fantasies, and a lot of people struggle with feelings of guilt and embarrassment about them. However, there is no need for shame - embracing your erotic fantasies can be beneficial for your relationship(s) and empower your sexual journey. Regardless of your relationship status or stage, fantasies can play a positive role in your love life.

Ethan and Olivia are struggling in their relationship and are at a point where they are not sure they want to continue being intimate partners and live together. Mono­ normativity would suggest ending the relationship and transition to separate lives. By removing this cultural paradigm, they however have another option, which is de­ escalation*

Ross has expressed multiple times that they need more compliments and affection. Dom listens but keeps saying they are not good with words..

Alex and Taylor both feel there's a growing emotional distance between them. In the early stages of their relationship there was deep...

What is essential for having a good relationship with your metamour (your partner's partner)? What ingredients do you need to create some

Conflict is an inevitable aspect of intimate relationships, yet it is how we navigate and resolve conflicts that ultimately shapes...

Sapiosexuality is a type of sexuality that involves being more attracted by the contents of a person's mind than by the appearance of their