Let's bake a metamour cake!

What is essential for having a good relationship with your metamour (your partner's partner)?

What ingredients do you need to create something that is solid and won't crumble or deflate?

Ingredients

• Respect - of the boundaries set by your metamour and shared partner (including time, privacy, and specific agreements)

• Open and honest communication - share your thoughts, feelings, and expectations and establish clear and transparent lines of communication to avoid misunderstanding

• Empathy - recognise that the people involved may have different needs, insecurities, and desires

• Educate yourself - about polyamory, different relationship structures, and effective communication skills. Connecting with the poly community or a poly aware counsellor are a good addition to seeking knowledge through books and online resources

• Know what you want, need, expect, and prefer - take time for self-reflection to identify boundaries, emotional needs,and relationship goals

Method

Blend the above mentioned items together and remember that there is no guarantee for a picture perfect creation. The idealised scenario of everyone being friends isn't always appropriate or possible.

There are infinite ways to design the relationship with your metamour, so communicate your preferences and create something unique.

Actionable relationship tip

Browse for the "Metamour Bill of Rights" (Monogamishpod.com) and reflect on the statements made.

What resonates? What do your partners think of this? How can this be helpful for the relationship with your metamour(s)?

If you feel you need support, feel free to reach out. I will support you with care and understanding.