Sapiosexuality

Sapiosexuality is a type of sexuality that involves being more attracted by the contents of a person's mind than by the appearance of their body.

In order to feel sexually attracted to another person, a sapiosexual person must first feel intellectually stimulated by that person's thoughts, ideas, or conversation.

Signs you are sapio sexual

• You crave deep conversations

• You prefer mind over body

• You love good grammar

• You value intelligence

Sapio's and sex

• Bookstore hangouts, or museums are your idea of a good date

• A fiery debate gets your juices flowing

• You get pleasure from learning from your partner

• Exploring taboo subjects turn you on

How does being sapio sexual impact your relationship(s)?

Strengths:

Continuous growth and learning:

There's often an emphasis on continuous growth and learning when being in a relationship with a sapiosexual person.

Partners encourage each other to expand their knowledge, explore new ideas, and challenge themselves intellectually, leading to personal development and fulfillment.

Less focus on superficial qualities:

Sapiosexuals typically place less emphasis on physical appearance or material possessions in relationships.

Instead, they prioritise qualities such as intelligence, curiosity, and emotional intelligence, which can lead to more genuine and meaningful connections.

Challenges:

Mismatched expectations:

A sapiosexual individual's emphasis on intellectual stimulation may lead to mismatched expectations in relationships. They might expect constant deep conversations and intellectual engagement, which their partner may not always be able to provide, leading to disappointment or dissatisfaction.

Neglect of emotional connection:

While sapiosexual individuals prioritise intellectual compatibility, they may unintentionally neglect the emotional aspect of their relationships. 

Overemphasis on intellectual stimulation could result in emotional needs not being adequately addressed, leading to feelings of loneliness or disconnection.

Actionable relationship tip

Check in with each other about sexual attraction.

• What is important for you to feel sexually attracted to a person? (physical appearance, intellect, emotional connection, personality, etc.)

• Does your sexuality fall under a particular label, such as demisexuality, pansexuality, polysexuality, gray sexuality, etc.

• Do you feel that your feelings of sexual attraction affect your relationship?

If you find yourself struggling with any of the questions mentioned above, don't hesitate to reach out to me for guidance. I'm here to offer support and help you explore these topics in a safe and non-judgmental environment.