Breakups are already complicated. Throw in non-monogamy, multiple emotional bonds, evolving boundaries, and divergent expectations, and the question “Can I still be friends with my ex?” becomes even more nuanced. As an ENM therapist, I often see people wrestling not just with loss, but with how to redefine relational connections. Here’s how I approach that question, what I encourage clients to consider, and guidelines for doing it (or choosing not to).

We all have little habits that can frustrate our partners - leaving dishes on the bench, clothes on the floor, or finishing the last biscuit. On their own, these seem small, but in relationships, they can carry weight. That’s because habits often become symbols of something deeper: whether we feel seen, valued, and cared for.

We all experience moments in our relationships when emotions run high and conflict arises. That’s completely normal. But how we respond in those heated moments can either build connection - or quietly create distance.

How owning your actions strengthens trust, connection, and emotional safety In non-monogamous relationships - whether you're polyamorous, open, or exploring another structure - communication often gets the spotlight. But another cornerstone is just as vital: accountability.