About me and my journey
MY ORIGIN STORY
I came to non-monogamy early in life because it resonated with my values. Even before I had the language for it, I knew that love, for me, wasn’t something that could be boxed into one way of being. I wanted relationships built on freedom, honesty, and choice - where connection wasn’t about ownership but about genuine care.
Like many people, I had grown up with the “default” relationship script: find the one, settle down, stay exclusive. But deep down, that never felt quite right. It wasn’t that I was against commitment - I was (and still am) deeply committed in my relationships - it’s just that I wanted to do it differently. I wanted to love in a way that felt authentic to who I was.
Being the reflective type (and a counsellor by nature and by trade), I dove into books, and personal reflection. I found the words: ethical non-monogamy, polyamory, relationship anarchy. And everything clicked.
But that was only the beginning.
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MY STRUGGLE
What no one really tells you when you start this journey is how hard it can be. Even with all my training as a social worker and counsellor, I wasn’t immune to the waves of insecurity, jealousy, and fear that came up. I questioned everything - my worth, my place in my relationships, and whether I was “cut out” for this at all.
I carried so much internalised monogamy - stories about scarcity, competition, and the need to “be enough” for one person. These beliefs would sneak in, pulling me into spirals of overthinking and emotional overwhelm. I would swing between wanting freedom and craving safety, often unsure how to hold both at once.
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MY HEALING
Over time - and yes, it took time - I began to find my footing. I learned to sit with discomfort rather than react to it. I got clearer on my values and began to shape relationships around who I truly was, not who I thought I “should” be.
I found people - kind, courageous, curious people - who were also walking this path. I built community. I practiced self-compassion (which didn’t come naturally at first). I learned to trust that my needs, my boundaries, and my emotions were valid.
And gradually, everything softened. My relationships deepened. My sense of self grew stronger. The fear never fully disappeared (because I’m human), but it no longer ran the show.
Today, I’m living relationships that feel spacious, joyful, and rooted in honesty. There’s still learning, of course. There are still tough moments. But I have the tools now to meet those moments with care - for myself and for the people I love.
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HOW I CAN HELP YOU
I became the counsellor I wish I’d had at the beginning of my non-monogamy journey. Someone who gets it - who understands the emotional terrain of opening up relationships, navigating jealousy, managing big feelings, and unlearning the old scripts.
For years now, I’ve been supporting individuals and couples (and everything in between) as they explore ethical non-monogamy, polyamory, and alternative relationship styles. I bring both professional expertise and lived experience to this work.
If you’re struggling, I see you. I know how overwhelming and lonely it can feel. And I want you to know: you don’t have to figure it out alone.
If you’re ready to create relationships that feel authentic, steady, and joyful, reach out. I’m here to help you find your way - so you cannot just survive non-monogamy but truly thrive in it.
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MY QUALIFICATIONS
Bachelor of Social Work
Diploma of Counselling
